tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182987402024-03-23T11:13:40.889-07:00the mamaRaising CHAOS since 2002bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.comBlogger514125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-90523021403465593532022-02-01T12:52:00.001-08:002022-02-01T12:56:32.824-08:00Stuff<p><span style="font-size: large;"> It's pretty great cruising through the old posts of this blog. So much of the childhoods of my kids. Some of whom are not kids anymore.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">My darling Birdie is "Sister Chaos" now, serving a Mission and sharing the Gospel of Christ in Texas. She turns twenty in a few days.... and I will not be making her a cake or a trifle or a Pavlova or anything. For some reason this punctuates how "gone" she is, in a way that didn't even hit when we did this past Thanksgiving and Christmas without her. Not gonna lie, I'm a little desolate over it.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">My LaLa girl will be an adult (18) two weeks later, and she is graduated from homeschool and working at Target. She drives herself to work and back and takes her little brother to the dollar store as Birdie used to do for her. She's looking at a digital media program at a college down south, and we'll see if either of us survives it come August. A nearly four hour drive away. We shall see.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">Sweet Pearl has a drivers license and a FaceTime interview this evening at a local ice cream shop. It will likely be her second job, her first one having been a seasonal gig packing books for shipping over the holidays. She is super private and I'm not allowed to hear her play or sing or be privy to anything she has written, but she WILL watch coming-of-age shows on Netflix with me. Thank you, I'll take it.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">Henry is as thirteen as thirteen years old can be. Dude. I'm 5'8" tall and he's several inches taller than I. His voice is already quite deep and yet is STILL cracking and changing daily. He codes and designs games and laughs at the kinds of things that adolescent boys find funny. I wouldn't say he's Beavis and Butthead level, but it IS a bit of a thing.... I'd say the 13 year old dude watchword is "Random" or maybe even "Silly," but I would not rule out "Gross."</span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">I'm working on resurrecting myself here... I find that after 20 years of squashing myself to fit the needs of a growing family and get my day to days, and priorities taken care of, that I cannot recall some portions of "me." I'm betting that some are gone for good and "don't let the door hitcha on the butt on the way out," but some of who I am I think I really need back. I have a few years to track that woman down before a serious crash, but track her down I must.</span></p><p><br /></p>bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-34994933834081813512021-06-04T19:18:00.001-07:002021-06-04T19:18:37.233-07:00Brain Death<p><span style="font-size: large;"> When I was a teenager and into my early twenties, I thought, for reals, that adults were numb. Numb to joy AND to pain, just sort of floating through their infinitely dull lives of banal nothing-burgers. I watched them for signs of life and judged them to be barely breathing.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">Welp.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">Here I am an adult, mom to three teenage girls and one dude who turns thirteen this December... I turn fifty-two in one week... and I think I might DIE of feeling, freaking EVERYTHING. I literally cannot drive alone down the street without having to either mop up the tears from my face to put everything back in order, or stuff down the expression of horror on my face. How on earth did I think the grown ups around me were on auto-pilot to brain death?! Possibly the boundless selfishness of youth?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">I am heartbroken.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">None of this is what I thought it would be. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-size: large;">I can barely move, I hurt so much.</span></p>bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-51604448150502799652020-04-05T18:32:00.002-07:002020-04-05T18:34:00.567-07:00Hosanna!!!<span style="font-size: large;">Yesterday and today was the bi-annual General Conference for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. If it's your thing then you KNOW how amazing and satisfying the past few days have been... if not, then Imma keep that to myself... except. Just. Wow!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Also... a bunch of the young missionaries, as well as a married couple of the "senior" missionaries have all been sent home early from the mission fields. There are yet a few missionaries from our Ward stuck in the Ukraine and Peru, and some who are sheltering in place, but these Elders and Sisters who've been forced home have all come back in the past few weeks...</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Usually we get to hear from each missionary upon their return, but Coronavirus. Today someone sent out a message on Facebook that we could all drive around the neighborhood honking and waving and calling out to the eight returned missionaries as they sat on their porch or stood in their yard. A time was chosen and signs of welcome and celebration were made with whatever paper or posterboard was on hand and the neighborhood lit UP!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Ya'll. It's almost ridiculous how much I needed that... to see and celebrate from a distance, the honking car horns and ringing bells and clamor of joy. My friends and neighbors and... everything we've been missing... y'know, from a distance!</span><br />
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<br />bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-58519537596941343432020-03-31T22:39:00.001-07:002020-03-31T22:41:30.442-07:00Block!<span style="font-size: large;">Today.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">It's Taco Tuesday and I decided that some Del Taco discount tacos are the way to go for dinner. Nevermind that one kid will only eat the burritos, the other kid will only eat a burger and the husband will only eat the fries.... it's Taco Tuesday dang it, and that's what we're calling what I got.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">So there is a monster line... cuz "Coronavirus," and drive-thru is all that's available, and everyone likes to eat them some cheap tacos. The line is so long it actually cuts in front of one of the two entrances to the parking lot that serves the restaurant and the little strip mall next to it. I'm appalled at the dude in the black pick up just ahead of me who just pulls forward and blocks the entrance to the parking lot. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">So I make sure to leave just enough room for a car to get in or out of the entrance and still be apparent that I'm next in line. Honestly? There are two more cars behind me, so it seems pretty much a no-brainer. I'm being polite.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Anyways, some jerk-head in a white truck pulls in off the street, he's moving slow and it sort of looks like he's gonna just get into the drive-thru line ahead of me, so I honk. Doesn't even look around, and sure enough blocks my way and just cuts the line. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I cannot social-distance ENOUGH today. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I also noticed that no one else behind me left a space after that. Blocked, baby, blocked!</span>bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-78528308413161587852020-03-26T12:55:00.000-07:002020-03-26T12:55:52.790-07:00Bug<span style="font-size: large;">Sooooo... Rented and streamed the newest movie version of Emma with the kids yesterday afternoon after all the school work was complete. It was delightful, although I'll admit the Mr. Knightly was not my all-time favorite Knightly. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I literally wept for Emma and Miss Bates, both, at the Box-Hill debacle, and I don't think I've ever cried over any part of that particular Jane Austen tale in either book or movie format. It was just so bitter, her utter selfish fail. It broke my heart, I mean, I KNOW what that is like to feel slightly off and petulant and then to find that all your relationships have been tainted by one or two stupid things you did in a moment of pique.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Sometimes it seems that everything has gone dark. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Yes, it WAS "badly done," but wow. Ouch. More than the reproof from her good friend or the social censure from the party in general, just knowing that you aren't the person you'd thought yourself all along? Bummer.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Perhaps I'm just weepy. Today I got the notification that my "Women on Weights" weight lifting class just got cancelled. I'd signed up for it a month early just so I'd FOR SURE have a place in the class. I can either get my money back or transfer to a class this September. I cried over that as well, but I guess I'll take the September class.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I think this is somehow the thing that has stung the most, and I'm not really sure why. I suspect it's just the cumulative of all the little losses together, it's obviously not that big a deal. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Except... the freaking quarantine eating that I've been doing the past few weeks. Ugh. Looks like I'll just have to straighten up and eat right and figure out how to build some muscle on my own. In the middle of a quarantine, stressed to the gills, stuck right next to my kitchen 24/7.</span><br />
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<br />bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-11163302286034337402020-03-24T16:58:00.000-07:002020-03-24T16:58:03.090-07:00Transparency<span style="font-size: large;">I used to blog pretty regularly. I look back at it and it kinda blows me away that I was ever that transparent with the things that I thought and felt.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I assure you.... sometimes I'll lose my beans in a conversation and actually unpack some things that I think and feel, but that's the exceptional situation nowadays. There are reasons. Some of it's my fault, some of it's situational and some of it is frankly, cuz people are assholes.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Or perhaps it's cuz I'm the asshole.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Not actually proud of the fact that I've become so tightly zipped. In some ways it's a sign of cowardice.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Maybe I am a coward. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I mean, I feel like I've taken a few hits lately. It's understandable that I'd be a little head-shy. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Plus as a woman in her 50's, while I have a healthy respect for my own ability to think and put information and ideas together, I no longer consider myself as .... more "correct than most"? ... "right"... or even necessarily as "logic based"? as I once did. I have been wrong enough times, I have seen my own tribalism and bias enough times that I'm not in such a fat hurry to make statements and back them up to the death.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Plus given todays culture of ultra-tribalism and name calling... I'm too worn down to even bother most of the time. It exhausts me, the shredding of people I see so many indulging in online.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">It's not all bad. A good portion of my blogging in the past was me thinking thoughts and having internal conversations while doing the more banal and mind-numbing parts of being a SAHM of young kids. Cuz really... kids can be entertaining, but they aren't what I'd call stimulating conversationalists. I have less of that kind of mind numbing scut work, and more of homeschooling conversations with teenagers and my one tween dude. Also thinking about homeschooling and DOING homeschooling. Not actually engaged in so much "boring stuff"nowadays. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Right now I'm thinking about mostly crummy stuff. Like how lonely I am. Like how I miss my walking buddies, my lunch buddies and my temple going buddies. I miss my sisters and my mom. Like how I'm stuck at my place of work for the rest of forever.... with Laundry and effing MATHS whispering little "your failing" sweet nothings in my ear. Constantly.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">...and now with YARD WORK jumping in the mix. Last year I failed big time at the yard work thing. I may have killed my peach tree, most definitely I maimed it. I let it get over burdened with peaches and it nearly split in half. Several key branches simply buckled and sheared off. I can hardly look at it for the shame and sorrow of it all. I just cannot even with the garden boxes of endless burrs and sticker weeds. I'm tempted to Round Up nearly everything in that back corner and just start afresh next year.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">But I'm also thinking about how much worse off we could be right now. I'm thinking about how much worse off so many people are, what with financial insecurity and health concerns and on and on. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I am such a dreary schmuck.... I kinda hate myself right now.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I'mma post this anyway, and try again tomorrow.</span><br />
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<br />bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-84265197911152068552020-01-01T10:33:00.000-08:002020-01-01T12:13:14.631-08:00The New Year<span style="font-size: large;">Looking at Instagram and Facebook with all the "sum up 2019 in a word" and "what I learned in 2019" posts.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I have tried on a few words and ideas.... but I really? Just. Can't. Even.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Words like "humiliation" and "rabid"... is "gaslit" a word? Perhaps "graceless?" I'm really tryna re-frame my experiences, and I do actually see the positives of what I went through last year, but so much of the upside has to be explained, put into perspective of how things went down and how I wish I'd been capable of doing it differently.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Like, how I wish I had more faith and grace and less scrabbling fear. This past year has really thrown up my weaknesses in stark relief. I am ashamed.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Is it possible to have PTSD from lousy customer service? I kinda think so, if you do it in conjunction with a life threatening emergency. At the very least how IHC handled my situation, it resuscitated some of the mess I was left with from my abusive marriage to Thatguy. I'm actually not kidding or exaggerating here. Mr. Thatguy was good as gaslighting, and apparently so is IHC. That's Intermountain Health Care (hospitals and doctors) for those who don't live in Utah, and aren't subjected to the ubiquitous hellspawn that is the SelectHeath/IHC incestuous horror. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">...and BTW, I'm naming names now. SeletHealth is the health insurance company that screwed me over. The people reviewing my final appeals actually had the gall to congratulate me on writing up such a complete and easily readable summary of what happened and why. They were so impressed with how much time and attention I'd put into it, and then denied it without even thinking for two seconds. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Really. What the flip is wrong with people to want to compliment me for obviously pouring time and effort, blood, sweat and tears into a worthless endeavor? Condolences would be more in line.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">"You poor sod, what a waste!"</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> It's all still here, the freakout, the rabidness, the grief, along with a goodly dose of humiliation. Because I have definitely lost my crap to random employees at IHC in trying to navigate their byzantine system. My only defense is the fact that it's a LOT of money on the line, and IHC has set it up so that you can never deal with the same representative twice, so every phone call is a minimum of two hours out of my life with the constant explaining.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Let's be frank here, however, it wasn't just SelectHealth/IHC. When something medical happens you get hit up for cash by the hospitals, the anesthesiologists, the surgeons, the ER docs, the CT guys... the list goes on and on. In the end, I got a 0% interest credit card and offered to pay in-full any institution or doc that would give me a 25% or better discount. Had one anesthesiologist AND the ER doctor's billing companies come back on me and try to extort the DISCOUNT out of me a few months later. TWO separate medical billing companies. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I swear I'm getting better.... and while the details of what this is costing is horrifying, it turns out that we can get it done. I really feel like it's a blessing on the one hand and a heartbreak on the other.... watching the money waltz out of our bank account and family finances. But as the terms of our payment plan is five years at 0% interest, this will be a nice little niggling reminder for the rest of what feels like forever. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And we've kinda become one of those families. For Christmas we had several anonymous envelopes of cash show up on our doorstep for a total of a $1,000 that we'll for sure be putting in our medical account towards my bills. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Now THAT I'd call humbling. not humiliating, but humbling. This little low-tech-mini-go-fund-me. I don't know who to thank, so I'll thank my God. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">...and that's probably a good start for 2020.</span><br />
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<br />bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-23103945394523652242019-03-03T18:57:00.000-08:002019-03-04T08:19:06.554-08:00Degree of Difficulty<span style="font-size: large;">Pardon my whining over here... but I'm drowning just a bit.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And depression is a sometimes side effect as well. Thats a fun one to go along with the whole hair-loss bit. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Honestly, I was looking forward to being lighter so that I could run, but I'm finding that when I'm <i>walking</i>, my left side hurts. Mostly when I'm breathing deeper. But it hurts, I would swear, near my heart. Not thrilled about that, and I'm only hoping now, that it lightens up by this summer... cuz right now running is out of the question. As is anything more strenuous than walking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I also don't dare to try and figure out what the problem is... I literally cannot afford to go to the doctor. Probably.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I was looking forward to fixing the gigantic hernia above my belly button... but that's out of the question for years, perhaps. Depending on insurance and negotiations with the hospitals. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I was also looking forward to wearing smaller sizes of clothes... I can afford to purchase second hand clothes only (again, in anticipation of things not going my way financially)... which, whatever. I live near some pretty great Thrift Store options and I'm not particularly proud. I've been a thrift store shopper from way back. I just feel a little dumb in my $5 Walmart bras. And not very sexy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">...and now that I'm feeling a little cuter, and a little more like myself, I've been eye-balling cute Dr. Marten boots. But really, I shouldn't get any even if I can find some cheap online, cuz my freaking FEET are getting smaller. For reals.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I really just hate how all of my free time is now spent making depressing and disheartening phone calls to representatives who don't know jack, and really, all they want to do is "set up a payment plan" and get you off the phone. I hate how I've been yelling at these hapless stooges. And crying. I hate the crying and how freaked out I'm getting over this mess. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I'm sad and feel betrayed by my "employee advocate" who claimed that the insurance companies call her "the Bulldog" cuz she's so tenacious. She isn't an advocate... she's a glorified Google. She's a professional "expectation manager." She had the gall to tell me that my main job right now is to heal and be okay and get better, when she knows that really, my main job is to try and mitigate the financial FUBAR that I'm facing. I have time deadlines. She knows that. Now is the time to do THAT.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I hate how it has to be me working through this mess. Not really sure why I'm so resentful of that. It IS my mess. But I am. Resentful. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I would hope that no one that I care about ever has to navigate these dark waters of insurance and hospital billing, because no one.... and I mean NO ONE knows how to do it, least of all anyone who answers the phones at the Insurance or Hospital financial offices. The story is constantly changing. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">But mostly I hate how I weep at the drop of a hat. And yell. I yell about how stupid the system is and how ignorant and useless the people who answer phones are. I guess when I get a letter in the mail saying if I have questions, to call a certain number, I expect that the person who answers the phone when I call that number to be able to answer my questions. But they rarely can.</span></div>
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bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-18370753003778727982019-02-11T12:49:00.000-08:002019-02-11T12:49:26.066-08:00Dear "Insurance Company"<div dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.656; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-right: 12pt; margin-top: 6pt;">
<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">The following is the introduction portion of my first Appeal to </span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: large; white-space: pre-wrap;">"Insurance Company"</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial";"><span style="font-size: 11pt; white-space: pre-wrap;">to reverse their decision to deny the butt-load of bills I have from all the recent medical hoorah. The following will stand </span><span style="font-size: 14.666666984558105px; white-space: pre-wrap;">temporarily</span><span style="font-size: 11pt; white-space: pre-wrap;">, with the name of my insurance </span><span style="font-size: 14.666666984558105px; white-space: pre-wrap;">withheld in case it affects my appeals process. I have just this past Saturday received the denial of my first appeal attempt. I have one more internal, and then a Federal External appeal to go. trust me... if I end up paying, I'll let ya know the name of the *%$#@ers who pulled this crap, and I'll do it loudly.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> We live in a complex age, the age of information. As a matter of fact, in some ways we live in an age of too much information.</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #500050; font-family: "arial"; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #121212; font-family: "arial"; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Google “information overload” and you are immediately overloaded with information: more than 7m hits in 0.05 seconds. Some of this information is interesting: for example, that the phrase “information overload” was popularised by Alvin Toffler in 1970. Some of it is mere noise. But it seems certain that there is too much information for the regular citizen to be aware of everything that is pertinent to their lives. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: arial; font-size: large; white-space: pre-wrap;"> If you use an iPhone or an Android based smart phone, then you have likely on the regular acceded to all sorts of things that you may not be aware of when you “agreed” to the terms and conditions just to be able to activate the device. Most people don't read what they are agreeing to, they simply assume that there is nothing untoward or unusual in what they are agreeing to. They assume that they would hear through their fellow citizens if there was anything too burdensome or bizarre.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> When it comes to insurance, I have a basic understanding of what would and would not be covered. When I wasn't sure if Bariatric Surgery would be covered, I called the phone number on the back of my </span></span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: large; white-space: pre-wrap;">"Insurance Company"</span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> card and had a conversation with a representative. Before the conversation occurred, I was informed that the call would be recorded, and apparently it was. I mention this because it is important to know that my recollection of the conversation lines up with what was said, and more importantly what was </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">not</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> said in that recording. I assume you, the reader, will look up and listen to that call the same as has already been done by my client representative for Blahblahblah Insurance. You will hear me ask about my coverage for Bariatric Surgery and discover that it was not covered. You will hear me then ask if went the self-pay route, whether any of what I paid would be able to be applied to my deductible. I was told “no,” but nothing past that. Not one single mention of the very pertinent information that any and every complication from </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">any</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> self pay procedure or surgery would </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">also not be covered by Selecthealth until a year had passed.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-size: large;"> I was well aware of possible complications to the Gastric Sleeve surgery, I did after all, do my homework. In addition to doing my due diligence, I had eight years earlier, watched as an acquaintance had the VSG surgery, and found herself a little over a week later in the ICU for a month, with a leak. Her leak was especially bad, and very nearly killed her, and had she not had insurance to cover the bills, it would have ruined her family financially. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> Because of the failure of "Insurance Company" to inform me of the grave financial risk I was taking, </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: italic; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">when I asked them about self pay surgery</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> in the phone call, I made a decision I would not otherwise have done.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-size: large;"> It did not occur to me that such a policy was a possibility, and because of that lack of knowledge, I made my decision in good faith, thinking I had the best information from </span><span style="font-size: large;">"Insurance Company"</span><span style="font-size: large;">. Like any modern American I trusted that the insurance company with whom I had a relationship and reasonable expectation of fair treatment, would have informed me of such a huge financial risk when I was actually asking questions about it on the phone. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-size: large;"> Because of the informational vacuum in which I made my decisions, I did go and get the Gastric Sleeve surgery on October 22, 2018. Interestingly, had I waited just a few months, I would have been covered by </span><span style="font-size: large;">"Insurance Company"</span><span style="font-size: large;">, as apparently January first of 2019 the policy of not covering complications to surgeries not covered by </span><span style="font-size: large;">"Insurance Company"</span><span style="font-size: large;"> has changed. </span></span></div>
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The second drain and the fun of medical adhesive allergies! Open sores along the edges.<br />
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Christmas Eve with my beautiful girls... Everything is gone but the drain on the side you cannot see.<br />
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The "before" pic is from June of 2016... the "after" is today. It's been a little over three months and 60 lbs lost... although I think it's 75 lbs less than the "before" pic.bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-31337877526921829172019-01-27T20:34:00.001-08:002019-01-27T20:34:30.104-08:00The Long and Dark Nights<span style="font-size: large;">Here is the goofy thing about the time I spent in the hospital and was laid out on the couch in the family room, feeling sick and generally not having much fun.... oddly, most of the time I was okay.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">By that I mean, I wasn't too afraid and I wasn't too freaked out most of the time, even though what was going on with my body was painful, scary and freaky! Please to note, I say most of the time, because I am a human being, and that's how most humans roll!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I can tell you, I am not, nor will I likely ever be one of those people of whom is said at their funeral, "they never complained or were down!" Seriously, I hear that about folks who die of cancer and I just don't buy it. Pain sucks, and hospitals are scary and frustrating and if you ever hear that said about me feel free to call out whoever says it! I assure you, it won't be Dadguy saying that kinda crap. He knows me too well!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The thing about what happened to me. I had prayed about getting the surgery before going, and received a very strong and clear answer to go and do it... right then- when I did, and right- there where I did. I don't often get that clear of answers, and when I do, it's usually a clear "NO!" So I was pretty sure that I was going to be just fine...</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">...and then when I wasn't just fine, I was pretty sure that I'd be just fine... eventually.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">This knowledge opened up some very interesting doors for me. Especially amazing was what went on during the long and dark nights.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Up to this point the only nights I'd spent at a hospital were either for my <a href="http://becauseiamthemama.blogspot.com/2007/05/pearls-mottoeat-world.html" target="_blank">daughter</a>, <a href="http://becauseiamthemama.blogspot.com/2007/05/happy-mothers-day.html" target="_blank">Pearl</a>, or in recovery from giving birth to my three girls, or the C-section for the <a href="http://becauseiamthemama.blogspot.com/2008/12/new-baby.html" target="_blank">Boy-o</a>. For Pearl I wasn't the one in pain or undergoing procedures. For the birth recoveries, that was simple, and frankly about five seconds after giving birth all four times I would feel so much better, I could dance a jig... stitches, IV pole and all! </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Okay...probably not the c-section. They dosed me up on morphine and I was on the nod for a few hours after the procedure! But the point is, I FELT pretty good!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The room I was in on the surgical unit was ridiculously tiny, there was really no place for Dadguy to stay, and I'd have sent him home even if there'd been room for him. The kids needed the continuity of having him home at night, and he needed to sleep. I knew enough to know that the nurses would be in multiple times a night, not great for getting rest. Hospitals are just not a great place to try and heal! Plus I was very sick and very weak, I needed to get as much rest as I possibly could.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Only I kinda wasn't. How to explain what went on when the lights went out? It was amazing! I was surrounded by Beings? Spirits? I was ministered to by these beings, watched over and prayed over by them. I knew my Granny only when she called me "dolly." There was also a very tall, raw-boned man with greying brownish hair who sat on my bed next to me. Those were the only ones that I could tell individually, but there were many others there, and they comforted me and helped to understand that this was all okay. I could tell they weren't mortal people, they didn't have regular bodies, but they were humans nonetheless. I could see and sense them moving around the room.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">That first night in the hospital it began, and it continued every night, even when I went home. I was also having visions of traveling over the earth. I saw mountains and oceans from a birds eye view, but I was unafraid. It was the most natural thing to be traveling the way that I was and seeing snowy valleys and high peaks, to sense the living creatures, to sense the hibernating trees and plants. There was a sense of glory and awe along with the visions.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">You may be thinking to yourself.... niiiiice! That musta been some good drugs! But I only ever took a single, two hour round of the strong stuff once a night four of those nights when I was in the hospital and never at home. The visions and the visits went on for hours.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Whatever I am supposed to learn and experience from this I hope I've done my part. But I can tell you for sure, I am grateful for the tender mercies I was shown. I don't think I will ever forget the feelings of peace and wonder of those long nights...</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Now I'm starting to feel better, and it's on to the next trial and challenge. How the flying flippity are we gonna pay for all this!?! Seriously... if y'all are the praying type, pray for a miracle for the Chaos Family Finances! Who knows what might happen? </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I most def believe in miracles!</span>bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-57531651081106601222019-01-21T15:46:00.000-08:002019-01-27T20:36:10.766-08:00Where I Have Been?<span style="font-size: large;">Soooo.... last October 22nd I went to TJ, Mexico, and had a gastric sleeve procedure done. I'm not ashamed of it, I know why I chose to do what I did... but I did want to keep it more or less private. Some of my immediate family knew about it before hand, but that's about it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I did my homework and had it done at <a href="http://www.pompeiisurgical.com/index.html" target="_blank">Pompeii Surgical</a> and I had an amazing experience! The staff, the doctors and the other patients were so fabulous. I felt great, I felt strong and when I came home on the 25th, I was tired but happy. That lasted till around Halloween.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I started running fevers with crazy-bad sweating, and had massive chills where I couldn't get warm and was literally shaking violently. I noticed on my apple watch that my heart rate was sky-high (tachycardia) but my fevers never got any higher than 101.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Finally on November 5th, after consulting with Pompeii, they told me that even though my fevers weren't high, that I should go in to the doctors. I got a doctors appointment at my PCP office and they tested me for influenza and a UTI. After both tests came back negative they sent me to the local hospital to get a CT scan... and there they found a huge abscess in my chest.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Spent the next 5 days in the hospital sick out of my mind having horrible things happen to me. I promise you, you do NOT want to know... just be aware that after one of the procedures I came back to my room and told poor Dadguy that I would rather die than ever have to undergo that procedure again.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I spent all of November sick, either in the hospital or sleeping on the couch set-up in the family room, that Dadguy had arranged for my convalescence. I spent all of December sick, though a week or so into the month, after a CT scan, and an x-ray as well as the material they pulled out of my abscess showed that nothing was getting from my stomach to the abscess (though whether that was because the leak was healed or just that the Stent was doing it's job was unknown) the doctor started me on a liquid diet. He had to pull the nasojejunal tube (feeding tube down my nose) because I couldn't drink with it in; too nauseating. That was the first relief I had. I could all of a sudden talk, and read, and drink!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">On December 26th, after nearly a week of eating and drinking (still mostly liquid diet) and no change in the material from the drain in my side, they pulled the drain. All of a sudden I could shower without a huge plastic sheet covering the drain site, I could sleep on my side (sort of) and the agony of the drain was over. If you think I'm being over dramatic, perhaps I should explain that I developed an allergy to medical adhesive a week after the second drain was places, and I had open sores all along where the drain was taped down. They had to remove the adhesive, meaning the drain was being primarily held in my body by a suture where the drain went into my side, along with the interior suture. That last week it was constantly shifting and pulling at the suture in my skin.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Today I finally dare to think that I really am done. Please, oh please let me be done. I mean... other than healing and recovering from two months of illness and loss of muscle tone. I guess there is all of that!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">List of things I missed while in the hospital both times.... Pearls 13th Birthday, Henry's 10th Birthday, T'Amy's wedding. Blah!</span><br />
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*Up next... pictures of "Before, During and After"... "The Crazy Business That Went On During The Dark Nights".... also the continuing saga of "How The Flying Crap Are We Gonna Pay For This?!"bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-11463979776824541872019-01-01T09:30:00.003-08:002019-01-01T09:30:55.517-08:00Snow Therapy<span style="font-size: large;">Two years ago I went to a therapist for the specific purpose of addressing the panic attacks I get around icy and snowy driving. It had gotten to the point where I was obsessively checking my weather app to monitor the forecast and temperature. I would hyperventilate (quietly as I could) when on the road in any kind of messy weather.</span><div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> I'm still trying to wrap my head around what my Church has done/allowed to happen in regards to a Proposition that is going on the ballot to be voted on by Utahns in November. Proposition 2 is a long fought, and in my opinion, relatively conservative Act to legalize Medical Cannabis for Patients in Utah. What my church has done is incredibly confusing and demoralizing to me on so many fronts, I'm almost at a loss as to how to write a blog post about it.</span></div>
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My Church has sent out an email specifically "urging" all members to vote NO on the Proposition. </span></div>
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I find myself in the interesting position of the fact that my husband and I give cashy-money to Libertas Institute, the think tank lobbying group that helped Prop2 become what it is. We donate to them every month. I agree with darn near everything that has come out of the institute, and most of the things that Connor Boyack (head of Libertas) has done or taught. I have, in fact, paid tuition </span><span style="font-size: large;">for three of my kids to take a class he taught last fall </span><span style="font-size: large;">at a homeschool co-op. A class on Systems of Government. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Connor has, along with a few State legislators, tried to get a medical cannabis bill passed for over four years. Efforts which have been stymied for years by a combination of elected representatives refusing to move on it, and the interference by the lobbying arm of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. My church.</span></div>
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The refusal of the Legislative body to move is extremely frustrating, especially since polls indicate that a substantial majority of Utahns support legalizing medical cannabis. Not just legalizing pot for recreational use, but only legalizing it for doctors (and only the doctors who <i>also</i> essentially have the right to also prescribe opioids) can have the ability to prescribe ("recommend"is the term because Cannabis is still illegal at the Federal level) cannabis as a therapeutic drug. To be clear... this is not smoking pot. Smoking it is STILL illegal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I come at this from the angle of a person who is a self-described drug addict/alcoholic in recovery. Coming up on 21 years clean and sober this October 7th, thankyouverymuch! I come at this as a person who has personal experience with the chemicals in question who now adheres to her Church's code of health and eschews use of any and all mind-altering substances, plus coffee, tea, and tobacco. </span></div>
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I believe that keeping my faith's health code, the Word of Wisdom, is a great idea. But I also believe that making drugs, and I mean pretty much any and all drugs, illegal, makes the abusers of the drugs into criminals, and once criminal, they become our American Untouchables. It is hard to help someone who has to conceal their disease for fear of imprisonment. I see the USA's "War on Drugs" as a hellish travesty, one continuous, vile, overreaching "unintended consequence."</span></div>
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I come at this as a person who has seen first hand the disaster that Opioid addiction (prescription primarily) has had on people in this valley as a Facilitator for the Substance Abuse Recovery Program of The Church Of Jesus Christ Of Latter Day Saints. I have seen the trainwreck it is for faithful members. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #454545; font-family: "helvetica neue"; font-size: large;">I've seen this first hand through the struggles of my late Brother in Law. </span><span style="color: #454545; font-family: "helvetica neue"; font-size: large;">Every single struggle that man faced was exacerbated, not helped by his "criminal" status.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Two years ago I lost my nephew to Heroin overdose. Honestly, this is a tender point for me. Please know that I'm fully aware of the costs of addiction. FULLY aware, and yet I fail to see how my nephew being a criminal in his drug use helped him one tiny iota.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I come from a medical history of rampant ignorance and harm done to me via medical doctors prescribing FDA "safe"medications and procedures to me that have trashed and permanently maimed my body. I've had surgeries that were complete cluster-cusses that ended up with medical doctors giving me the equivalent of "erm, I dunno." I started far too late in trusting myself. I gave far too much trust to medical "science." </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">On Friday of last week the church that I belong to sent out an <a href="https://fox13now.com/2018/08/23/lds-church-sends-email-to-utah-members-urging-no-vote-on-medical-marijuana-ballot-initiative/"><span style="color: #e4af0a;">email </span></a>via their official church emailing lists, on official church email letterhead, so to speak. When I got the email I went into a tailspin. I desire to be obedient, and I desire to follow the word of my God as revealed through His ordained Prophet.... </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">In the Book of Mormon, there is a story about a people who were bloodthirsty and violent. They thought almost nothing of murdering people, and they didn't believe in Christ, or that He (this was in approx 90 BC) would come. They were the enemy of the Nephite peoples, who believed in Christ. The Lord sent missionaries to the Lamanites, and whole kingdoms of Lamanites were converted to Christ during some amazing and faith-filled events. These people, in turning to the Savior and repenting, had a sore and difficult time of repenting of their many murders. So much so, that they literally buried their weapons of war.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">They buried those weapons so far down, in the depths of the earth and in their Christian hearts, that they didn't pick them up to defend themselves or their families when an army of unbelieving Lamanites fell upon them. These believers allowed themselves to be slain by the sword as they knelt in a field. Over a thousand lost their lives that day, but an even larger number of the unbelieving enemy threw down their swords and joined them. These people who refused to pick up weapons, even in their own defense became known as the Anti-Nephi-Lehis. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">There are even more incredible stories about what happened to these people in the writings of Alma in the Book of Mormon, but my point here is that in some ways I consider myself an Anti-Nephi-Lehite. I have buried my weapons of war, and like them, I fear if I ever take them up again, I will never survive the repentance. I dare not return to my weapons of war. My disobedience. My self will. My favorite drugs. My favorite sins.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">You should know also, that in recent years I have had a serious struggle, and I wrestle with certain points of doctrine that frankly, hurt my heart and confuse me. I have been wrestling for over three years and have found no rest, nor understanding past the answers that I have received to my prayers. The answers have been essentially "it is as it is, sorry you don't understand, and sorry you don't like it."</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">When I got the email, I was sure that this was another case of the above. As I wept bitterly, I hit my knees and prayed for guidance because everything in my mind and my heart says YESYESYES to Prop 2. I hit my knees, willing to be wrong. Willing to vote NO if that was the Lords will. Heck, the Church and the Gospel does all sorts of thing that I cannot wrap my head around, that hurt my heart even. I am okay with obedience. I WANT to be obedient. In many ways I must be obedient. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I asked with a broken heart and received a personal revelation that I must vote YES on Prop2. The answer was unmistakeable and unequivocal that I MUST. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I <i>know</i> that the Holy Ghost requires me to vote what I know to be true, and I <i>know</i> it the same way that I know President Nelson is the Prophet of God on the earth, and the same way that I also <i>know</i> the the Church is for reals the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. His Church. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I figured that this was enough. This was my answer, and only MY answer. I sat in discomfort for several days before I finally asked if I was expected to say out loud and publicly what I have had revealed to me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">After all, I'm not a prophet. I certainly DON'T receive revelation for anyone but myself and those I have stewardship over.... basically my family. Plus I really don't want to make a target of myself. But I am seeing people all over the internet essentially saying that the email that was sent basically means that it is prophetic revelation from President Russel M. Nelson himself.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Why would I have received the answer that I did if it was? I can hear people now, trying to convince me that I am wrong, or that I was mistaken in my answer. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">It became clear, to my great discomfort, that I was required to speak.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">But take my word for it? Please don't. I claim nothing past my stewardship, and I have zero stewardship over you.... but I do plead for you to do your homework. </span></div>
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Here is the <a href="https://www.sltrib.com/news/health/2018/05/11/mormon-church-compiles-legal-issues-with-medical-marijuana-initiative-but-still-doesnt-explicitly-oppose-it/"><span style="color: #e4af0a;">legal "analysis"</span></a> that the Church has based it's stance upon.</span></div>
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So as far as I can tell, my church has been the victim of some very poor information. Hey, back in the day they thought that Hitler was doing some pretty great stuff.... before the truth was discovered. Wayyyy back in the day, Joseph Smith practically bankrupted the Church and many members through his uninspired, <span style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69);">non-prophetic</span> and crappy money management. Not everything is Revelation. I'm sorry that they moved in the way that they have. </span></span></div>
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There. I have done what I was asked to do... If you choose to comment, please keep it above the waist. You should also know that I am COMPLETELY uninterested in anything that smacks of bashing my faith, my Church or my Prophet. I don't ask you to believe me, or agree with me, or vote any particular way. But if you are a member of the Restored Church, I would hope at least, that you'd take some time to educate yourself and ask the Lord your God. People are on the line here. Suffering and sick people who can be helped. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">For her first or second birthday (maybe Christmas?) I went online and found super cheap VHS copies of both The Many Adventures of Pooh, and Pooh's Grand Adventure. The songs became our songs, and to this day many of the quotes are still heard in the Halls of Chaos.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The gentle theme song was sung nightly as part of the bedtime routine, and I can still remember how the Bird mispronounced some of the names when she was very, VERY young.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Mee dah Pooh, Cheeser Wobbin, and Pliddit for Piglet, while both LaLa and Pearl both called the little pink guy "Piggit." They all called Tigger "Tidder."</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Even Henry, who has eschewed all thing cute and "little kiddish" from the age of five, will still sit and chortle through nearly any Pooh movie. Mind you, not the insipid little TV programs that have been bastardized from the originals...but they will all watch the movies with a grin of expectation and joy on their faces. Springtime With Too, A Very Merry Pooh Year, The Tigger Movie, Piglet's BIG Movie, the Heffalump Movie... there is just something so gentle and funny about them. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Life has been moving on in the House of Chaos. Everyone has been growing and growing up at a prodigious pace. Birdie is 16 now, old enough to drive and date. LaLa is 14 and Pearl is 12... they are all three in the Young Women's program of our church. Only Henry is still in Primary... but even he will turn double digits at the end of this year. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Honestly, I'm not terribly sentimental about their young childhoods... not often in any case. It was in some ways a rough time for me.... going through having four babies within seven years as an older mother. Trying to get everything figured out and to be honest, I lost whole sections of myself in the process. I'm still not clear whether the parts I lost will ever be found and whether it's a good or bad thing.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">But oh. That movie hit me in a spot I didn't know existed. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">So, this summer Birdie got her first real-and-for-actual "Jobby-job" at the nearby movie theater. It's been hard on her. The shifts are longer than anticipated, the place isn't big on actually <i>training</i> their employees, and it's a little overly "big corp" for my tastes, but it has been a growing experience. One of the perks of the job is that she can go see movies for free, and get one other person in for free as well. So far she's taken her siblings to see shows, but when Christopher Robin came out, we both knew that show was mine. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">No spoilers... But the film kept true to the original Pooh gentleness and managed to keep the sweetness while never stepping over the line into saccharine. But it was also a little heart-breaking and just a little dark in places. Growing up is one thing... but being a parent, a good parent who provides the important things for little humans, things like a home, and food, and boundaries, and regular bedtimes... that changes us all, doesn't it? Sometimes I kinda wonder, does it kind of dim us as humans? I don't know. I'm not really one to romanticize childhood much. My own was in no way terrible, but I for sure don't miss it. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I sat in the darkened theater, courtesy of my employed oldest, and thought of how she had just gotten her drivers license the day before. Thinking about how I pushed her into it, that last bit. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">How she really didn't want to grow-up and drive herself places. I recalled the relief on her face when earlier, as we were leaving to see the movie I offhandedly said, "Oh, I'll drive us to the theater."</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The growing up does have to happen. The driving pretty much does too. Eventually everyone really is potty trained and apparently, for the Mama, the ugly crying is gonna be happening right along with some of these events, once the reality hits. And holy crap, the weeping may continue off and on for days.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Hello,<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apXJWlVVSAY" target="_blank"> uglycry headache, what a pleasant surprise. How 'bout lunch? </a> And, help yourself, Pooh.</span>bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-29656882755585175922018-07-16T12:01:00.000-07:002018-07-16T12:01:33.021-07:00This and That<span style="font-size: large;">So. Not a perfect family. So what?</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Honestly... my family of origin is pretty great, and I love them. Just hadda get that off my chest I guess. In a strange way I see that what I wrote in my last post could be taken to mean that there was some abuse going on in my family, by comparing some of my sibs fighting styles to a stone cold abuser. I don't think that... I was just surprised to find myself back in some old emotional places, and I was finally able to see some things I hadn't before.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Not great, but hey, I'm an adult now, and I'm better equipped to deal with what's coming my way. Mostly.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Speaking of being an adult... I didn't start having babies until I was in my 30's, so I think I might have been under the impression that I was gonna skip the identity crisis once the kids grow up and move out. Ya know, the empty nester crisis of "who am I now?"</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I'm no where near the empty-nest stage, but the Bird has a real jobby-job at the nearby movie theater and will be a licensed driver by the end of the week (assuming it all goes as planned) and I can see that eventually this is really gonna happen. She's sixteen and I can see it. The end of raising children.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">In some ways I am pretty all right, but in other ways I look at myself and feel like, "Really? I'm really still dealing with this crap?"</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Better spend a little time this summer and see if I can dig out from underneath the mommy-identity and figure out some of who I've become over here. To that end, I'm grateful for a goofy little disaster we had at the beginning of summer.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">When our house was being built it looks like there was a mix-up with where our water main was to come into the house. For some reason (prolly water main) there was a 3-4 inch hole either drilled or left in our foundation that got "patched" by someone shoving in a glob of tar and then covering the whole mess with insulation. This spring the "fix" failed at the same time as we had sprinkler leak right on top of the hole.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">They informed me that the house was well out of it's one year "workmanship warranty," and I informed them that if a foundation cannot hold up for more than a year, that ain't "workmanship." The foundation is actually covered for ten years... but I guess builders want to pay up about as much as a health insurance company.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Eventually they agreed that a giant hole in the foundation does constitute a "problem" that they ought to fix... and with some back and forth they even agreed to fix everything but the flooring. They, right or wrong, want us to take on some of the damage fix because of the sprinkler leak. SO, the upshot is that by the end of this month the (rather large) closet will be refinished only with no flooring and that will be the PERFECT place to paint. Year round!</span><br />
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<br />bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-77728039181582867992018-07-09T09:39:00.001-07:002018-07-09T09:39:54.666-07:00Outliers<span style="font-size: medium;"><i>In the first part of January I wrote the following post and never published it because I was afraid of starting family drama. Now, a half a year, and not one single post later.... I find that I don't care anymore. </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: medium;"><i>I've made some sort of nasty trade-off that I wasn't aware of. I'm stoppered up. Can't write, can't draw, and can't paint. I have sat down time and time again and the following post glares at me from my "drafts." It mocks me every time. I sit down to write and see it there, then I have to re-read it and discover that it's still killing me.</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">At one of the gatherings, I had a conversation with a sibling about how things are now so very different from how they used to be in our family. She talked about how peaceful (relatively speaking) our family gatherings are, how our interactions are so much kinder than one would guess from how we grew up. She reminisced about the toxic sarcasm and viscous jibes that we used to deal out to each other. We loved each other, but it was a biting and rasping sort of a love. Without pointing too may fingers, lets just say that we were a family of six smart-ass kids being raised by a very high functioning autistic woman and an emotionally absent father.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">You see, I think I have this strangely idealized vision of my family of origin. Like we all get along so famously and well. Like all of that pain and viscousness is in the past.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">In my mid twenties I met and married a guy, I hesitate to call him a man. I see now that he was mostly a hurt child in a man's body... let's just say that he was abusive in nearly every way a man can be abusive to a woman. I'm not going to list it out right now, that's not really the point. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> "Themama," he said one day after a particularly bad fight. A fight where he hadn't laid a hand or a boot on me, but managed maximum damage nonetheless. Anyone who has been through a violently abusive relationship can tell you, the real damage is rarely done with fists. It's the words that landed that you're trying to slip decades later. "Themama, we just argue very differently." He wasn't being unkind at that moment, he actually was explaining like you would to a little child. "You see, you argue because you think you are "right" about whatever it is we're fighting about. So you try to explain to me why you are right. But when I argue, whoever hurts the worst at the end, loses. You'll always lose to me. Always."</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> ... but I AM saying he was not the outlier I thought he was. As a matter of fact, in some ways- he made perfect sense. The whole idea of "whoever hurts the most at the end is the loser" was not some new experience for me. I had just never heard it said out loud before.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Seriously. The conversations I have with the geriatrics in my neighborhood.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">One bonus of age, is that my ability to do and to serve has been increased. My comprehension of what needs doing to run a home and a homeschool, and the organization to make it happen has been supercharged.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And that's great. It really is. But now I have reached the end of everything. The end of my abilities and the end of my spiritual and emotional stamina, along with the meager physical stamina of a body on the wane.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I am staring down the barrel of my 50's, and I have a niggling fear that I have made a grave error. I suspect that raising teenagers is a younger woman's game. </span><br />
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<br />bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-85717792882929052422017-11-02T23:27:00.001-07:002017-11-02T23:27:56.931-07:00Gratitude<span style="font-size: large;">Tonight was a gathering of the ladies in my church congregation the theme was gratitude.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">In my gift bag I took:</span><br />
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<br />bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-35574626093765235882017-11-01T11:07:00.002-07:002017-11-08T06:53:08.449-08:00Happy Freaking Halloween<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span>
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<span style="font-size: large;">This is the day after Halloween and I have a costume hangover. I swear off the fancy stuff, the elaborate and the time-consuming. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">The time I spent helping kids and actually making the costumery this past month and a half was unreal. It was fun and the results were cool... but I will never do it again. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Y'all... those kids designed their own costumes. I made those lace up aviator boots with steam punk detailing by hand. We tracked down all of the pre-made bits from second hand stores and cos-play eBay sites. I learned how to make armor from EVA foam and a heat gun and paint. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Even with all the DIY and the second hand, I can't bring myself to think about how much money was spent.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Henry is wearing the same mask and carrying a knife just like Dadguy did last year. Birdie is wearing most of the elements from her last years Death Eater costume.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Do you know how much more the above two loved their costumes than the other two who just used these bits from other costumes?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I'll give you a hint... the Steampunk Angel? Took off her costume (including the aviator boot-toppers) and dug around in the costume box last night when it came time to go trick or treating. She put on a black cloak and accessorized with a hot pink hair bow and a hot pink belt. She called herself a "vampire" and that was that. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">We had spent so much time getting it "right" that she was bored with the stupid thing by the time it mattered.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">*Edited to add: Really? I was showing these pictures to a group of women at my church, and an older woman just informed me that LaLa's outfit is too sexy. After I had explained how long it TOOK ME TO MAKE IT. Too sexy? Not! Sorry. Whatever. Shut up. Who says crap like that?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Life is messy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">What's messier than life?</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Life with kids.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">What's messier than that? </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Mess-mania.</span>bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-5564194258994221842017-10-22T15:53:00.000-07:002017-10-22T15:54:26.235-07:00Questions <span style="font-size: large;">I have been struggling with questions. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Lots of questions. Grundles and truckloads of them. Things that had never bothered me before, festering and confusing. Mostly centering around my eternal identity as a woman, and the veiled nature of my Heavenly Mother. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> I am an LDS woman, and we believe that as a counterpart to our Father in Heaven, we have a Divine Mother. She was Mother to our Savior before Mary. She is Mother to us all. So, while all of the visible Priesthood responsibility in mortality falls to the men, giving the church the aspect of Ultimate Patriarchy, the eternal reality of our existence must be something different. It has to be. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> If the organization of the family here on earth is a type and a shadow of Family in Heaven... well. Just think! What must our Mother be?! </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> But here is where I get confused, women need each other. In so many ways we need each other in a way that men do not need each other. We need the support of other women, and we need to watch older women and see how things are done. When it comes to being a mother, ourselves, having an example of what to do and how is so very vital.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Any woman who has ever attempted breastfeeding, <a href="http://www.becomingmamas.com/what-our-primate-cousins-can-teach-us-about-breastfeeding/" target="_blank">can I get an amen?</a> </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> It makes no sense then, that we have all the appearance of having been ditched, here on earth, by the one source of strength that we need the most. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Really? What gives?</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Right. I know. You don't have the answer.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> I had been studying, and studying it out. Praying and pondering. During my personal prayers the week before last, I felt very strongly that I needed to go and speak to my Bishop. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> "Really," I thought? "What can he possibly tell me that I haven't already found?" </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Took me a week call and make the appointment, but then last Tuesday finally rolled around, and I went in and talked the man's ear off. Two hours of download. Poor guy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> The next morning he dropped two books off at my door and texted me to let me know they were there. He also informed me that he felt that my questions were inspired questions from Heavenly Father, that He wanted me to search and ponder for answers. For some reason, I had simply assumed that the questions were from my faithless and restless brain. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Well. Changes everything!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> One of the books he lent me is Patricia T. Holland's "A Quiet Heart." Not yet done with it, but I see that this is a book that I need a copy of my own. This is exactly the book I needed, and I see that I am only just scraping the surface of this. I also see that this book is gonna make a superior gift for every LDS woman I know.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Funny... the book itself is a pretty little journal thing with a photo of a white rose on the cover and roses printed on the side of each page like some sort of nicey-nice bit of fluff. I will admit to some skepticism as I flipped through it and saw that it came complete with a cream colored ribbon attached to mark your place. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Y'all. This is no nicey-nice fluff. It addresses my more serious questions head on, and I am adoring this woman, this wife of an Apostle of Christ.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Today when Dadguy walked past the table where I was sitting and reading, I told him that I was going to need my own copy of this book for highlighting and writing in the margins. He seemed surprised, did I mention that the thing looks like an overly flowery book of cheesy poetry? I told him that Sister Holland was directly speaking so many of my concerns. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Birdie was standing nearby, listening like a hawk. I'm not 100% sure what all of this means to her, but I hope at least she will learn that God has room for the honest questions of a seeker. I hope she will understand that the concerns of a daughter matter.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> "Wow, really?" says Dadguy, "should I read it too, then?"</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> "Well," I reply, "it's written specifically for women, but yeah.... you should totally read it."</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> "Whatever," scoffs Dadguy, "I've read Twilight, you know!"</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Bwahahahaaaaa! That's my guy. My sweet, sweet Dadguy!</span><br />
<br />bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-30312338008737002972017-10-20T10:18:00.001-07:002017-10-20T10:23:31.943-07:00You Do You<span style="font-size: large;"> Last night I was chatting with a group of women from my neighborhood. We are Utah-Mormon women, so that means we are also all in the same church group. It came up that a newly "empty-nester" couple had sold their home and were in the process of downsizing. I fantasized out loud about downsizing.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Sick of cleaning the house, and yard work, and dinner, and, and, and... Like a dumb-ass I listed all the things that suck down my days. One of the women looks at me and says "why don't you outsource some of it?"</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Actually, I have been considering getting a guy or a crew or someone to come in and prune and prep the yard for winter. Or, ya know, just let everything go to heck the way I do every year. I angst every year till it snows for really-reals, and then, oh well.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"> I curse myself for that decision every spring as I muck out the flowerbeds.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> I say, "yeah, I've been considering that." Sweet visions of a truck full of guys to do all the things so I don't have to.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> "They have these things called schools, you know," she smirks back at me, "you could send your kids there and it would free you up for everything else."</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Siiiiiiighhhhhhh....</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> I forgot. This particular woman has raised her children, all of whom are hyper- successful and happy products of public education and a good, solid wallop of higher education to boot. We have had a conversation before where she kindly explained to me what a disaster it will be if my kids don't get a diploma and a degree or better, several degrees.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Look. I don't think homeschooling is for everyone. If you send your kids to the local public school or go charter or private.... whatever. It's your thing. You do you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> I get that not everyone approves of what we do, or believe that it is a good idea. At all.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> We homeschool. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> It is difficult and exhausting.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Why on earth would I outsource one of my favorite things? Why would I chuck all the personal revelation from my God, all of the gains my children have made, and all of the blessings?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> My fault for putting Homeschooling on the list of what my day is. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Let me be clear: Homeschool is up there with food, raising my kids, and prayer. Not out sourcing any of it. Except for the occasional trip to Del Taco.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Because tacos.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> Sometimes you just need a big bag of tacos, and maybe a crew of guys to fix up the yard.</span><br />
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bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-49288747793238861382017-09-13T08:00:00.000-07:002017-09-18T16:33:18.832-07:00Hate<span style="font-size: large;">I am so very, very done with the overuse of the word. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Every time I turn around, people are applying the term to other people, their actions, and beliefs in such a grand sweeping label that it is now just pissing me off.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">You believe something that I don't like or disagree with? Then you are "hateful." That idea is "hateful," that ideology is "hateful."</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">People seem to be using it when they mean "thoughtless" or "different priorities," or "paradigm I don't like."</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">At this point the word means "hateful,' about as much as "literally" actually means "literally" in the mouth of a Millenial. (hint: it now can just mean "very," or "really".... it literally doesn't mean literally anymore)</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Stop it. Stop using that word. The word HATE and HATEFUL. It no longer means ANYTHING.</span><br />
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<br />bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18298740.post-24101580342202512892017-04-22T22:01:00.001-07:002017-04-22T22:05:11.755-07:00Failing Sucks<span style="font-size: large;">Well. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Here I sit in the ruins of a Saturday. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">What a miserable, unfortunate day. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I tried to rest up from my hectic week. I tried to be good wife. I tried to be a good mother. Tried to take care of a list of things that really needed to be done. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Tried and failed. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">We talk about failure and failing a good bit as a family, or at least I talk to the kids about it. How it's a good thing. How that's the way we learn and grow. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Seems to me that this was not one of those "good" fails. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">At least the only take-away i seem to come up with, alone at the laptop after a nice, ugly cry, is that next time I oughta just pick one thing and do it and to heck with the rest. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">My Pearl reminded me that we made it to her 8:30am soccer game, and that I was there to "support her" and that was a good thing.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">... so I guess it should be said that I didn't screw absolutely EVERYTHING up. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Yay.</span>bonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01844859687652489596noreply@blogger.com1